When you find yourself out of a job you suddenly have access to 1000s of resources and benefits stripped away; from software to exclusive networking events. Even deeper than that you find yourself violently shaken from your routine. Suddenly, people, you considered friends who you may have worked with for years are gone. Sally your manager who loved Friday pints at the pub after work no longer calls so you find out the hard way you were only friends out of convenience. On top of all that you find that due to lack of money you have to start declining social events, you would have happily attended – or even have organised – when you were working. These things all tend to slowly knock your confidence and erode your happiness.
It, therefore, can’t seem surprising that your job can become entangled with your perception of your self-worth. I noticed this in the little things once I quit my role earlier this year and was looking for another. For example, when I would introduce myself to new people it felt weird that I couldn’t jump to the topic of what I do and the industry I’m in. It’s a classic icebreaker topic although I now realise it doesn’ reveal as much about a person as we may think. Another instance was when I went to an industry panel event and the sign-up form required me to fill in my place of work – which was nowhere of course. I ended up putting something to that effect in the field just to fill it but it did annoy me that that was even part of the form, therefore technically ruling out people like me from coming. That is people who are looking for work and still want to go to such events to network and stay informed on industry trends.
Anyway – moving on…
As we find ourselves in mandatory lockdown, unexpectedly confined to the walls of our homes, it’s easy to put pressure on ourselves to be productive. It’s after the all the currency we use to measure our days when we’re out and about. Being able to tick tasks off our physical or mental to-do lists also gives a little dopamine rush; thus making us want to get even more done. We’re seeing a lot of things from various articles and social media influencers of things to do during a lockdown or a showcase of things they’ve managed to do. Learn a new language. Read 11 books. Become a master of coding and video editing (because one skill clearly isn’t enough.) In all honesty, I am not guilt-free when it comes to failing to listen to this pressure. Recently, I decided to try and increase my proficiency in WordPress and get better at promoting my blog content a bit more.
To be honest, the pressure feels quite burdensome and the demands stemming from it unrealistic. It feels like we’re worker ants constantly scuttling, never knowing when to be still and rest. This Guardian article which covers similar ground makes the interesting point that these pressures, coming primarily from the ‘hustle culture’, don’t actually benefit us. Rather, it benefits the Capitalist structure we are engrained in; that worker ant mentality drilled in us from childhood (i.e. school) is only done so with the endpoint being too make us ideal employees. And it does. It makes us great, efficient employees but can also spill over into our private lives causing unnecessary stress because productivity at home will never look like productivity does at work.
Why should it be a bad thing that my to-do list just consists of blog writing and shows to watch on Netflix? The time for such things may as well be now because once we’re back to normalcy, it will be like we had this moment to pause and recuperate. Overall, it is not a bad thing to decide on a personal endeavour like earning a language or instrument etc. Just know two things:
- Do it because you want to; don’t do it because you find yourself bowing to that external pressure I referred to. Be driven by interest and passion, not because you want to be able to cite a long list to people post-lockdown of all you accomplished.
- Your worth will not change even if your productivity levels do; you may be busy and buzzing some days but not on others and that’s perfectly fine. This is a stressful time for everyone but in different ways; so we are all dealing with it how we can.
That last point also applies to those like myself who are reading this and are in the middle of a job search. I encourage you to keep going, know that you’re not alone and always have value – with or without a job.
8 thoughts on “Your Work & Your Worth”
So accurate! I’ve ended up in a job I hate because I thought it would make me happy and others’ perceptions of the career are ‘oo that’s a good job’. Essentially, I took the job hoping it would make me feel better about myself and increase my self worth. I am now going to be studying towards being a teacher in September and I couldn’t be happier. I didn’t do it originally because other people told me it wasn’t a ‘good’ career.
Thanks for sharing! I have been through a fairly similar experience and I’m glad you’ve ultimately finally found something that makes your heart happy! I guess finding the ‘ideal’ job is usually a case of trial and error.
All the best with the teacher training!
Whew, this is a very thoughtful piece and it resonates quite well with me.
Just last year, I attended an event and a form asked us to input our job positions, I wrote blogger and funny thing is that made a lady sitting next to me peak interest. We started talking and we’re friends till today.
I bet the society doesn’t realise when all these pedestals are organised to make it seem like a group of people may be underachieved and it’s so unfortunate.
Thanks and I’m glad you could relate! Awww, that’s actually a cool story – it is really nice when you go to those events and come away with much more than you expected!
You’re very welcome. I hope the world’s a better place when we make it out of this times.
This is a very great piece!
Thank you! Enjoying your blog also ☺️
Thank you! I will be reading more of your blog tonight. Thank you so much for joining the Bella Crew!!