In the moment. In the now.

I miss you, yet I see you every day.

Is this how it feels to be so close to someone

yet so far away?

Disclaimer: I write this (as with all my posts) with no malice. In fact, I may sometimes be guilty of this myself so I’ll keep that in mind throughout.

Is it only me or do people find it so hard to be in the moment nowadays? By that I mean just savouring the present moment and appreciating what you’re doing and who you’re with. I can sometimes be with people and see they’re with me but actually quite distant all at once. Distracted by their phone either pinging with messages or simply not strong enough to resist the momentary urge to scroll through social media whilst you are talking. And that can be quite a frustrating state of affairs; firstly because it set a precedent for the whole evening and secondly, it means they may not have heard something that you felt was really important or took a lot of courage to share. In fact, it can be quite rare I find to be with someone I know and just be within a moment where you’re both talking whilst filled with genuine appreciation and joy at being with that particular person. With no one else. Or anywhere else. But there. I have a friend that will always tell me off for being on my phone and insist I put it away when with her. As a true phone addict would, I used to be annoyed at that but after some reflection and observation of my own social situations in the past few months I’ve seen the logic behind what I thought was once madness on her part.

It may not be intentional but being on your phone indicates you’ve only half-heartedly pushed time aside for that person. That you’re physically present but mentally you’re only half present here and God knows where else. The greatest sign of care and love is when you’re sitting opposite each other or walking side by side and you’re friend puts their phone away and looks you square in the eyes and says ‘talk to me’. That’s the cue that says to me (supported by action) that, I’m here for you, I’m listening and I’m all yours. The exclusivity of time is one of the benefits of a relationship and should definitely be taken more seriously. It may feel more intense without your phone there to buffer the awkward moments if they arise but at the end of your time together- whether long or short- you’ll know and love each other that little bit more. Because you’ll be reminded all over again of why you love that person and keep them in your life.

Happy Monday!

So… Margaret Thatcher, the UK’s only female prime minister, and the longest-serving prime minister (eleven years I think) is dead. RIP to her. She died ‘peacefully’ of a stroke the news has said. I was talking on WhatsApp to my friends today and was wondering, is it even possible to even die peacefully of a stroke? Maybe, although I strongly doubt it. She has always caused division among people. Many love her and many hate her. I mean, she did close down quite a bit of Britain’s coal mines- causing the breakdown of small communities and the loss of 20,000 jobs. On the other hand, she did save Britain’s economy and transformed our Education system. So…like I said, division.

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R.I.P to you Maggie.

Today has been unproductive once again- damn you modern technology. Hopefully, the evening will not go to waste. The house phone has become my enemy over the last year. It used to just ring three times and then go to voice mail but now it continuously rings. Honestly, me and it are not on good terms. Every time it rings I ignore it and eagerly await the sweet silence that will follow when the ringing finally stops.

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I wish I could be her and say this proudly…*sigh*

Check out my Square eyes section- I’ll be posting some more stuff this week. Some book reviews may also be coming your way. 🙂

On a serious note…

I was asked how I feel today about Transgender people, this wasn’t a random question, it was the topic of a talk show I was watching at the time. I think it’s so easy for people, especially for those that are Christians like me, to say what people should and shouldn’t do, when you yourself may have not been in that situation. So if you think it’s wrong and you don’t think the person should change their sex, what SHOULD they? Stay so unhappy that they eventually commit suicide and become another statistic? I don’t think so.

My thought on it all-  it’s a nuanced subject that requires education, empathy and understanding. Let’s continue to equip ourselves in these three areas since ignorance, hate and apathy only continues to hurt the trans community and we need to be the change.

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Margaret Thatcher- (cropped) photo taken from wikipedia.org

R.I.P to the weekend- till we meet again…

Howdy Guys!

Two posts in one day! Wow, aren’t I treating you guys 🙂 Honestly, I love WordPress, I stumble upon amazing bloggers everyday. YOU GUYS ARE AMAZING. Yes, feel the love right there.

Anyway…so it’s just about gone past midnight here in London. The weather wasn’t too bad- no sign of precipitation coming from the sky so…yes, not too bad. I went out to eat on Saturday. I think it’s the first time I had properly stepped out of the house all week. I met a couple of friends and went to the O2 Arena, a massive concert venue near the River Thames. It’s dotted with nice restaurants and other shops. We went to Frankie & Benny’s, a restaurant that does American/Italian style food. I ordered a hot toasted wrap with a filling of Balsamic chicken, garlic, iceberg lettuce etc. with a side of ‘house-fried chips’ and coleslaw. The wrap was Ok- but I don’t think I would order it again. The Balsamic was too overwhelming, and frankly didn’t go well with the chicken. The Chips were great,  they had a crispy coating and were basically like fancy Burger King Chips. As for the coleslaw,well I don’t do coleslaw, so it was left untouched. I was mourning the loss of my phone yesterday evening. It tragically died on me, so I was cut off from the outside world for a good two hours or so. I would have posted a photo of my meal, but since I had no phone…I think you get the point.

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My friends and I were unfortunate enough to decide to go the O2 arena on the day of a One Direction concert.  The place was swamped with girls and women, young and old, wearing band merchandise from shoe laces, scarves to T-shirts and hoodies. For those of you that don’t know who One Direction is, they happen to be one of those extremely overrated famous boybands that many girls love. It might surprise you, but I’m not one of those girls. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against them, I even like some other songs surprisingly. It’s just obvious to me that they are one boyband in a line of many gone and to come. Once they hit 30-40 years old, they’ll lose their appeal, split up and we won’t hear from them till a couple years time.

Look Familiar?
Look Familiar?

You’ll turn on your TV one day and see them on some pointless reality TV show such as ‘I’m a Celebrity get me out of here’ or ‘Big Brother’, trying to revive their very much dead careers and fame. Fame is a funny thing- many long for it, some have it and hate it, others once they lose it or finally get it, will do anything to keep their hands on it or get it back.

Now, hop onto the random thoughts train…

I read this month is National Poetry writing month- so I’ll try and get some poems I like, or post a few of my own. (Emphasis on the ‘try’)

I love the store ‘Tiger’- they do everything (at a reasonable price) from candles, spices to pencils. Love it. Went there on Saturday and took some pics. People must have thought I was crazy. Funny thing is they’re probably right.

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Lastly, Follow my newbie friend Abigail on her blog:

http://www.awesomenessismine.wordpress.com

Be a sport and follow newbie friend no.2 Javani:

http://www.themindofaweirdo.wordpress.com

Have a great week! 🙂

Note:This entry is a combo of stuff written on Saturday and Sunday.

 

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My pictures were taken from:
http://www.ukmums.tv/mums-columns/a-day-out-with-frankie-benny-s-mum-s-review (Frankie and Benny’ logo)

http://www.peoplestylewatch.com/people/stylewatch/package/article/0,,20658248_20673349,00.html (One Direction).
The rest are mine, taken on my iphone 🙂