Thought of the Day: What women want

We live in a society with a lot of options so I often feel the weight of indecision when going into certain situations. For example, you go to the supermarket to buy crackers and cheese and you’re faced with about 25 brands of crackers alone (like, why?) However, there are times when you may go guns blazing into a situation, knowing exactly what you want. And it’s VERY annoying in those circumstances when you make it crystal clear what you want and it’s still doubted for some reason.

You say ‘no’ and people think ‘ahh, she just means ‘not yet’.

You say ‘no’ and people think ‘she’ll say yes with a bit of persuading.’

And why? What part of ‘no’ or a ‘yes’ is so confusing? This often happens, surprise surprise, to women because God forbid they be highly rational or know what they want when they make decisions. It’s why we have to give credit to female entrepreneurs and CEOs – I honestly can’t imagine how often they face this issue on a regular basis and yet they still make moves and get things done. It must be tiring, constantly jumping through hoops and hoping people take your decisions at face value.

Anyway, that rant is to segue into my recent story of a grapple with customer services this week. I decided to save some money and cancel a subscription from a certain well-known British TV service provider. I made this very clear when I called – the automatic voice when you call customer services asks the purpose of your call and then so does the human adviser when you finally get through to one. For a straightforward request, I was shocked to find myself on the phone for over an hour trying to cancel my subscription. I was forwarded to three or four people, all as unhelpful as the other. In fact, they were even trying to sell me MORE things during the call (can you believe it?) The cheek. During and after the call I was fuming – it was a hairpulling experience, to say the least. I finished that call unsuccessful with my request. I decided the next day to call again and go in guns blazing, being very clear about what I wanted. I think I even said something along the lines of ‘Can we make this process quick please since I’m working and don’t have much time to spend on this.’ Result? A shorter call overall and my cancellation was successful.

The moral of that story isn’t to be rude to customer service but sometimes being firm and repetitive about what you want can never hurt.


Read more about my ramblings with customer services in this previous post.


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These are my obsessions: K-dramas



My addiction/ love of K-dramas came after watching my first good one. I say this because the first actual one I watched (Jealousy Incarnate) didn’t really grab my interest so I thought nothing much of it. With each episode in that series being over an hour long and barely keeping up with the subtitle pace, it definitely wasn’t love at first sight. That changed when I sat down with my uni housemates one night to watch the drama ‘Cheese in The Trap’. Thinking back to then, it wasn’t the greatest drama I’ve watched but I was firstly, amused by the name and secondly, as I continued to watch the drama in love with the protagonist’s relatable awkwardness.

It escalated pretty fast after that. I mainly watch crime and romance shows and although I feel South Korea does them best I have watched a few from China and Taiwan. For me one thing I do love about K-drama’s is they are free from most of the Western clichés you see (particularly in American dramas). However, they still have clichés of their own. Basic things I have observed:

  • Fate, loyalty and friendship are big themes you will find in some shape or form in each drama. For instance, in a few romance dramas the main characters have unknowingly met in their past as if to imply they were destined to be together. Exhibit A: the show Cinderella and Four Knights.
  • K-dramas can be a bit more conservative when it comes to romance; this probably partly because TV is more closely censored than film (which is another ball game- you only need to watch one to realise.)
  • Female characters can be marmite. My likability for show does strongly depend on the depictions of females within it. Females that are always damsels in distress or highly emotional slowly annoy you; although I’ll make an exception for The K2.
  • No-one is ever as they seem in a good K-drama. Even the ones you come to hate/love have a backstory or change sides due to events within the drama. This adds a layer of realism to the dramas as they seek to portray the complexity of individuals; humans are complicated things after all.


A lot of K-pop singers dabble in acting also but this is something you’re unlikely to realise unless you research the dramas and actors like me. (I’m weird like that.) I also like watching behind the scenes footage and cast interviews since they can be pretty funny. For those that want to test run a series; I will be posting some of my recommendations up soon 😉 I also have another obsession I will be revealing in a part (2).

Have a good weekend.

The Beautiful feeling of Freedom

Technically, it’s partial freedom because exams aren’t totally over yet (five more left), but they will be- soon. Next month to be precise. 

Free from the chains of public exams…sorta


Anyway…how are you guys? I haven’t been blogging for a long time- I was trying to limit distractions around me while I revised. So this post, as usual, shall be a random rant.

The most talked about topic at the moment? The horrific incident that took place in Woolwich, South London. Two Islamic extremists hacked a poor man to death with a machete, simply because he was a soldier. I can’t wrap my head around this event to be honest. The extent of violence that took place makes me sick to my core, I mean imagine the amount of hate you need to feel to plunge a knife into someones heart, let alone a machete. *Shudders*

My mum just got a blackberry, we’re both trying to figure out how to use it. If you want a new phone- get an iphone. They definitely live up to their expectations. I received the iphone 5 late last year and I love it. The only thing I don’t find that useful is the Siri. 

My friend Abigail is infatuated with Leonardo Di Caprio. It’s getting quite worrying, I think she needs a boyfriend, fast. I also better not tell her Titanic is coming on TV tonight…

Speaking of films, I plan to watch ‘The Last King of Scotland’ and ‘Pitch Perfect’ over this weekend and bank holiday Monday. I also hope to go cinema to watch the latest Ryan Gosling film. ‘The place beyond the pines’ , also starring Bradley Cooper and Eva Mendes.

What is about people, men in particular, and periods? On Friday I went through the ordeal of having to carrying a bag containing a pack of pads on the bus, then all the way home. I assumed most people knew what was is in the bag, or maybe it was just me, I don’t know.

Women bleed monthly- just accept it. It’s natural, it’s nature. Also, If a women is acting moody or grumpy, it’s likely you’re annoying the hell out of her- not that she’s on her period. Men and some women alike like to make that annoying assumption.

I love American TV shows. My favorite at the moment is ‘The Mindy Project’;firstly because it’s hilarious, secondly because it’s one of the only TV shows I know that have a leading character of ethnic minority.

Mindy Khaling- Comedian and Star of comedy sitcom ‘The Mindy Show’


British dramas like ‘Prisioners’ Wives’ are also good but, very intense. British humour is usually misunderstood by many, while American humour is pretty much a universal thing. That’s just my opinion anyway.

Unusual Moment of the Week: Buying flavored milk from the school canteen and finding out it was expired O_o. 

(I ended up exchanging it for some juice)


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