True Crime Trauma

I was inspired to write this after recently listening to one of my favourite podcasts, The Friend Zone (much recommended). One of the podcast hosts, Francesca, a True Crime fan like myself, described why she has had to dial but on her consumption of true crime content.

There are many noticeable podcasts in this area that are doing well and that I admittedly enjoy listening to weekly. To name a few, this includes; Crime Junkie, Generation Why and RedHanded.

However, when you think about what you’re actually consuming and the traumatic nature of it – kidnappings, murder, rape, assault, etc, it’s no wonder why it may start to negatively affect the mind. Sure, we hear about such things on the news, but we do so typically in a spaced-out fashion and in moderation. If you’re bingeing true crime content, that could be several hours of shut content being absorbed by the brain.

The likelihood is though, the incidents you hear about on podcasts (fraud aside) are statistically rare or happened over long periods of time. In other words, you probably need to be less worried about it than you think. For example, l listened to a podcast about a baby-swapping case the other day. If I was a pregnant woman doing so, I might suddenly start to think ‘Oh goodness’ and start to enter a state of worry. Then, because of that, I may delve into more true crime content on baby kidnappings to do ‘research’ which just exacerbates the worry, when in actual fact, statistically speaking this isn’t something to be very worried about.

Francesca talked about how the podcasts had started to affect her dreams and make her feel anxious. She, like myself, eventually resolved to stop listening to such podcasts at night for that reason. I think especially for female true crime fans, we already live in a world that is dangerous for us, so listening to such horrors can indeed create a heightened sense of fear. It may manifest itself in different ways, for example, when I would be walking home at night, I would get very paranoid and a bit scared if someone was walking behind me, even if doing so innocently. I can imagine, especially for people that live alone, you may suddenly start to feel your house isn’t secure enough, or if you hear a noise a night your heartbeat may go into overdrive. In general, it can make you less trusting in people too because, very bluntly put, everyone has the potential to be someone who wrongs you or violates that trust.

‘So why put yourself through that?’, you ask. Sure, it’s true there are plenty of more ‘positive’ podcasts around. But, I do think you learn a lot from true crime podcasts – a lot of cases from the past, probably not widely known about by many, are the reason we have certain laws in place today – e.g. Amber alerts. If you’re like me, although you can easily become disillusioned with the goodness of humanity when hearing the various ways people can be evil, you can instead choose to adopt the oppositive mindset. And that is to be more appreciative of the good people do, when it’s done, knowing they could have chosen to do worse but didn’t.

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Fear Less not Fearless

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‘There’s NO ROOM FOR FEAR’, I’ve heard many a pastor claim to the sound of applause and gesture of nods.

But if we are being honest there is always room for it. Not because we want there to be but because most of the time fear is involuntary. It’s like a slow-growing plaque at times staining the surface of our mind and threatening to take over. One could compare it more even to an unwelcome guest who we tend to entertain all the while hoping they will leave.

And there is no doubt it can definitely be a problem. God knows how many opportunities I let pass me by due to overwhelming fear! So although I think fear to some extent is natural, it stops being so when it paralyses you to the point you are unable to chase opportunities that will lead you to the greener pastures you long for.

You may have started the year deciding you were going to approach life more boldly and without fear. But you may have felt yourself already backsliding as we enter February of the new year; already you’re hesitating over decisions and second-guessing yourself.

The new motto is to allow yourself to do things despite fear not without it. Let yourself feel an initial stab of fear and go for something anyway. I’ve done many things using this approach and trust me it’s honestly the most rewarding thing.